Dear sweet young girls and women,
You are strikingly beautiful–inside and out. Our culture values beauty but sometimes they get it wrong. They mistake seductive or sexy or desired for real beauty and it can get really confusing to those of you trying to make your way through it all.
There are mildly inappropriate behaviors that both men and women can be guilty of projecting onto someone and there are wildly abusive behaviors that likewise can be inflicted and there is a whole spectrum in between. None of it is acceptable.
But something I know of the murky waters of sexual misconduct is that when a culture embraces, no celebrates immorality, immodesty, explicitly sexual misconduct (all 50 shades) and pornography, we bear part of the blame, collectively, for the abuses that spawn out of that.
Don’t be a part of the hypocrisy that celebrates inappropriate sexuality then damns it, and everyone is supposed to know when it’s OK and when it’s not.
Stand up for morality all the time because all the time it’s appropriate. Stand up for modesty and propriety and decency all the time, because all the time it is right.
Don’t cheer for the freedom of women to pose nude to the whole world and expect men to appreciate it as purely an art form. It’s never going to happen.
I’m asking you to live honestly, to see the sick paradox of our current position on sex and set your feet firm in a tide of emotional gravity.
And remember: not all men are perverts and not all women who claim to be victimized actually have been. This is an important distinction for the sake of true victims. The #metoo movement might have good intentions, but somewhere along the way, an agenda has taken over that threatens to reduce the term “sexual assault/harassment” to nothing, hurting real victims, and simultaneously setting a precedent can ruin anyone by unfounded, unproven allegations.
Stand for women by protesting ALL forms of abuse, objectification of women, pornography, and degradation of the sacredness of sex. Oh, and darling, do it in a dress without plunging cleavage, mkay?