What’s a Girl to Do–Interview–Part 3

You have an inner strength and a confidence, a contentment, which radiates about you. To what do you attribute this?

“Since I am a single woman, serving at home, I understand that God works through my parents. Growing up, my family was always so different than other families. We seemed to be constantly doing the opposite of what our friends were doing, for example, we decided to pull out of Christian school and to begin homeschooling. God slowly began to change my parents thinking to realize that homeschooling was what God wanted our family to do.

As God began to show our family things in our lives He desired for us to change, I needed to know why God wanted us to have certain convictions and be able to explain our family’s convictions to my friends. Many friends did not agree with me, but in the end my parents were always there for me. My parents are my best friends. The Lord gave Mom and Dad wisdom to see there were certain people I should not hang out with.

And so through the years the Lord has helped me to have faith and trust in them. I know the direction Dad is leading our family is the direction that God wants us to go. I have learned this from Scripture. I have faith in what God is doing through Mom and Dad even though, to the world, we are so different. But aren’t we supposed to be different? (Phillippians 1:20) I know the world doesn’t understand why I would want to be at home. I am not here to please man, but to please God.

At the same time I can understand how the world feels, because I once thought of girls staying at home in the same perspective. God alone is the one who changes hearts. So if there is anything good you observe in me, it is God working through my parents, teaching me to trust, obey, and have faith in Him, and only in Him.”

Tell me about the importance of the relationship that you have with your father.

“God is all we need. And He has blessed me by giving me a Dad who is so Godly, so discerning and so steady. Dad allows God to direct him about things before he does them. He is not impulsive at all. For this I am grateful. He has always encouraged me to pursue Biblical excellence in all that I do. This includes relationships with other friends, courtship, going certain places, etc. He is my hero because he points me to the Lord.”

What would you like to say to encourage girls who might see this interview, especially those who don’t have the strength, the confidence, the contentment that you have and maybe also those whose fathers are not supportive? What sort of thing would you be able to say to encourage these girls?

“I would say first of all, “Have a good relationship with your mother.” You should have one with both of your parents, but in this situation it is particularly important for a girl not to neglect her relationship with her mother. If both your parents still don’t understand the vision, I think you should get counsel and encouragement from other Godly women, but they should always point you back to Scripture (Titus 2:3).

Study Scripture and get books to encourage you to fulfill God’s role regarding young women staying at home. The Christian life is about being obedient. In order to be obedient, we need to know the commands that we need to follow (Deuteronomy 13:4). It’s important to meditate on Scripture (Joshua 1:8). Study it. Surround yourself with Godly people who have the same vision for staying at home. Simply pray and just be quiet. Allow God to work in your parents’ lives.

Don’t feel like you need to be the one to change them. Be patient. Allow God to work. We sometimes expect God to work like a microwave, when in reality, we need to wait on Him.”