homeschooling

Relaxed homeschooling, for us, doesn’t mean we don’t sit down and do “school work”. It just means that we also “think outside the classroom” and text books and worksheets are tools, while our education extends far beyond them.

A lifestyle of learning seems to me not only more natural and comprehensive, but easier to implement as a busy mom.

Mary Hood said: “God didn’t create classrooms, He created families.”

The sensibility in that statement meets me as a mom.  Mothers are often overwhelmed by the task of homeschooling because they are trying to run both a family and a school.

What if much of the education of children just happened naturally inside family life?

Especially for little ones, there are many things that can be taught in casual conversation, multi-tasking during a chore, etc.

A few random things we do:

• Sing learning songs together during chores or play time. We’ve been singing the “Months of the Year Song”. We also enjoy singing Scripture this way as well.

• LISTEN. God bestowed the wonderful gift of curiosity into children which, if we are available and ready, can be an important key to knowledge. Hear their questions and be ready to help them find answers, even if you plant seeds by giving them an overview of what you know. I said the word “electricity” yesterday, and my 4-year-old asked, “Who’s ‘Tricity’ “? She wasn’t really interested in electricity, but she listened intently as I explained how it was responsible for turning on things.

• Ask questions. Whatever is in front of us, I try to get into the habit of asking, “Do you know why ……?”

• Do math. Math is everywhere and it makes better sense when it is taught in the context of real life. Even the rote stuff–multiplication tables, for example, can be practiced while we fold laundry or do dishes together.  It just takes remembering to “redeem the time”.

• Make good use of writing opportunities. A card or thank-you note makes a great use of time and energy and can double as language, writing and grammar. It makes better sense to have a reason for writing when possible. After all, the only reason grammar, spelling and language matter is so we can communicate our thoughts to others.

Sometimes I just need to revisit the reasons we educate in the first place. Learning can take many forms. Don’t be afraid to tailor it to your season of life, not only giving yourself a break if you can’t duplicate a classroom, but possibly even finding that it’s better that way.

What are some of your “real-life” learning strategies?

Check out the great, practical tips and learn more about a lifestyle of learning in my Ebook, Think Outside the Classroom!

“The mother is qualified,” says Pestalozzi, “and qualified by the Creator Himself, to become the principal agent in the development of her child; … and what is demanded of her is––a thinking love ….Maternal love is the first agent in education.”

We are waking up to our duties and in proportion as mothers become more highly educated and efficient, they will doubtless feel the more strongly that the education of their children during the first six years of life is an undertaking hardly to be entrusted to any hands but their own. And they will take it up as their profession––that is, with the diligence, regularity, and punctuality which men bestow on their professional labours.”

I have found that many, many homeschooling moms want one thing:  “Just tell me what to do!”  I’ve heard new homeschooling moms tell of their frustration because a veteran mom wouldn’t give her a detailed plan to follow.

I understand both sides.  If you are one of those new homeschooling moms, it can be downright scary to suddenly find yourself solely responsible for the education of your children.  Especially with so many people waiting to see how you do 😉  It’s natural to want a fool-proof plan!

But those who have homeschooled for a while know the danger in submitting a one-size-fits-all prescription.  Homeschooling is not the same as a school program where everything does look similar, and all the students are squeezed into one mold.  But we consider this an advantage and we want you to capitalize on that freedom too, not “hindering” you by offering a plan that may work for us but stifle you!

Still, we all really do need to have a guideline, at best, and sometimes it’s helpful to see another schedule or see how someone else fits a certain style into a workable daily plan.

If you would like to try to implement the Charlotte Mason method, you may consider looking at the following general guideline, but be sure to make it work with your family, your style and your time demands.  Don’t forget…this is your freedom and there are many, many ways to properly educate a child!

Note: We aim to center most of our reading around a certain time period and study that time period for a while.  Finding a good history book in a narrative form is a great place to start in pulling together your daily plan.  You can also coordinate your artist and composer studies within that historical period.

Sample daily plan for the Charlotte Mason method:

Monday-Thursday:

Breakfast-30 minutes

Morning reading (gauge time to fit your ages…we let little ones color/play blocks, and older ones draw during this time):

• Bible
• Book #1 read aloud–Could be a selected history book or missionary biography (this is what we are using for geography), or any other read aloud.
• Poetry reading (some find it helpful to read from an anthology, but poetry could be gleaned from any source)

Morning Chores-1 hour

Having a simple chart for each child to check off helps alleviate repeating and thinking about who needs to do what.  Revisit chore responsibilities every few months if needed.

Seat Work

In our home, this means the three older ones do math, English, copy work and silent reading.  Right now this silent reading covers science, and the two below my oldest are reading from Christian Liberty Press’ Nature Readers.  (They will narrate after lunch.)  The 6-year-old practices writing letters (general writing book) and reads aloud to me from her readers (CLP readers)

Little ones can color, be read to, play, etc. during this time.

Lunch

Sometimes I read to them from a poem or another selected book during lunch; sometimes I just try to keep the peanut butter out of hair 😉

Naps/Reading/Narration

Any seat work not finished gets done during this time, along with narration from science readers.

Book #2 read aloud–I usually choose a book for this time that is a bit more advanced since the little ones are napping.

Silent reading.  This book is one each reading child has picked, with my help, to read on his own.

(Also my blogging time if time permits.)

Play time/projects.

This time may include one of the girls making bread for supper or helping the oldest with a sewing project. I try to encourage something productive. Legos count as productive. And on a rainy day, productive might be an educational video 😉

Afternoon pick up before supper.

Friday

Nature Study

Picture Study

Composer Study

“Composer study” is not planned in; we simply listen to different composer, randomly throughout the week.  But it is helpful on Friday to discuss a selected composer, his background, his era and geographical details.

This is a guide to us.  It doesn’t mean we follow it strictly.  From my personal experience, if we feel the need to strictly follow anything, it squelches spontaneous learning opportunities which are sometimes the best ones.  If we get “off track” while studying one thing to study another, I don’t think of it as “off track” at all.

It helped me to construct our daily plan by writing down a list of everything I wanted to get done, and then find a place to fit it in.  We change our schedule fairly often, as well, adjusting to family changes.

I will officially end the CM series here.  But we’ve only scratched the surface!!!  I would urge you to get your hands on the “Charlotte Mason Original Homeschool Series” (I think you can find the entire manuscript on line) and dig in.  She has a wealth of information about all things parenting and children and I have found it an invaluable resource!

Later in the series, I plan to include a more detailed explanation about how to implement the Charlotte Mason method in a typical school day, but it’s important to get a full “big picture” of her methods before you put together a plan. One of the benefits is that this method of instruction doesn’t have rigid parameters (which intimidates some and frees others ;-)) and allows each family to tailor it to their lifestyle.

Part 2 discussed the importance of “living books” in the CM homeschool, and the next cornerstone is the practice of copy work, narration and dictation. These exercises have proven excellent tools in teaching spelling, grammar, punctuation and composition. It can, for all practical purposes, replace a standard grammar, spelling and writing curriculum.

I cover some of these in a little more detail in my book, “Think Outside the Classroom: A Practical Approach to Relaxed Homeschooling.” But here are some basics:

Copy work.

“The purpose of copywork is to get into the child’s visual (and motor) memory the look and feel of a sentence that is correctly composed, and properly spelled, spaced, and punctuated.” (The Well Trained Mind)

Copy work was a common practice for centuries. Even Hebrew kings were required to make hand-written copies of the Scriptures. It’s important to understand the dynamics and benefits of copy work–it’s not just busy work!

“By and large, the greatest writers in the English language developed their writing skills through copywork and narration. Neither Shakespeare nor Jane Austen ever enrolled in a creative writing course; Dickens never studied journalism; Robert Louis Stevenson did not take classes in How to Write for Children (or for anyone else, for that matter)! Living before the invention of photocopy machines and computers, anything they wanted to keep a written record of, had to be copied down by hand: so copywork was a normal part of everyday life. Our children obviously live in a different age, but if we hope for them to become great writers, we can do no better than provide them with the same kind of training as these, and other, writers of the past.” (From Wonder to Wisdom)

Copy work is very easy to implement…students can copy from a selected passage in a book, from a poem or from Scripture. The main goal of copy work is to make sure he copies exactly what is written–perfectly. The quality is more important than the quantity, but the amount copied can be steadily increased as the child progresses.  Obviously, the quality of the passage he copies is important as well.

Narration.

Narration is simply the “telling back” of what the child has read. Narration has important implications in teaching the child to retain information, develop his thoughts, and learn to articulate those thoughts.

Narration should not be critiqued too much, especially at first. The child should feel free to share what he learned from his reading, even if it doesn’t seem like much or what you would have gathered from it. Asking questions is the best way to draw out more information. If the child doesn’t read yet, he can still narrate from selections you have read aloud.

Sometimes it’s helpful to show a child what you want in a narration. Simply read a selection and then say, “I’m going to narrate for you.”

Dictation.

Dictation is practiced once the child has a good grasp of writing through copy work. Dictation is writing down a selection that is read out loud. One important part of dictation is that you correct mistakes quickly, as they are made. If words are allowed to be misspelled, he could have a hard time breaking those spelling habits.

Dictation is best utilized by taking a selection, having the student read it through a few times, discussing any problem areas of grammar, spelling, punctuation, etc., and then proceeding with the dictation. When you read the selection, you should make natural breaks where there is punctuation, but not tell where the punctuation goes.

After the selection is copied, you just talk about any problem areas, perhaps having them dictate the words again the correct way. Any words misspelled could be copied several times with the correct spelling.

When we first learned of the Charlotte Mason method, we began just by implementing copywork. I’ve now learned more about the depth and richness of these practices, and would encourage you to try them for yourself. It actually takes some faith to believe in what appears to be such a simple exercise, but that faith will take on flesh after a while!

Part 1: Homeschooling With Charlotte Mason: A Series

Part 2-Homeschooling With Charlotte Mason: Living Books

Part 3-Homeschooling: Charlotte Mason: The Schedule is Your Servant

Part-5Homeschooling With Charlotte Mason: Nature Study

Part 6-Homeschooling With Charlotte Mason: The Arts

Part 7–Homeschooling With Charlotte Mason: Daily Plans

One of the most frequent frustrations I hear among homeschooling moms is that they feel pressured  by time constraints. They haven’t completed the day’s lesson in the time they should so they have the option of being “behind” or making everyone finish, regardless of the emotional costs.

I would challenge moms feeling this pressure to first ask themselves a few questions:

• Who is setting your pace?

If the answer is “the curriculum guide”, remember that no curricula can fit your family’s needs exactly, and because you are the only one who knows your children’s individual needs, you reserve the right to override the guide. (Oooh…I like the sound of that–chant it in a sing/songy kind of way and let it become your mantra 😉 )There are advantages to “school in a box” but you must remember that no child is really “in a box” and tailor it accordingly. Let them be who they are in terms of speed and learning ability. This is precisely why the classroom model is weak….it is tailored to “the average child” and there is really no such thing. One of the very big advantages of homeschooling is so we DON’T have to usher the kids through an academic maze in the same time everyone else does it. Utilize your freedom!

• Who defines “being behind”?

A question related to the first, let’s do a little de-programming.  Because most of us went through the system, we think in terms of grade levels, school years, and chunks of time.  In school, if we didn’t finish a certain subject in a given time period, we were “behind” because it was necessary to keep everyone at the same pace.  Not superior, mind you, just necessary.

Time frames and schedules are good and necessary for all of us.  But they shouldn’t rule us.  Education and the learning process doesn’t have parameters.  We can learn in the evening just as well as in the morning if need be.  We can learn about the Civil War in the fourth grade or the tenth, and we’re none the worse for it.  What we didn’t do today, we can do tomorrow and it’s OK!

• What are your goals?

Do we simply want to check off an assignment, finish a book or complete “a grade”?  Or do we want our children to learn, to retain the natural curiosity that causes them to see everything around them as a “classroom”? I know when I was in school, it was really just about jumping through the hoops to get a grade to complete the year to be able to graduate.  And if we’re honest, did we really retain the majority of the information we were given?

I want my schedule, my lessons, my textbooks to be servants, not slaves.  It may take a constant reminder of our purpose in homeschooling, but we owe it to our children to attempt to inspire in them a love for learning, not a contempt of “school” where it’s all about getting done.

Practically speaking…

Some moms need more structure than others, for sure.  And I am a strong believer in structure.  I am going to throw out for you how we handle schedules just for your consideration.  Again, every family is different and I think it’s so important to make your homeschool work for you and not try to emulate someone else.

We simply start in the front of a book, whether it’s a text book or a reading book, and we do what I feel is a reasonable amount each day for each child.  If we have to miss a certain subject for a certain day, we just pick up where we left off.  We don’t try to double up.  We school year-round, so technically speaking, we can afford to miss quite a few days of our text book work.  We don’t really even keep up with “grades” simply because I don’t see how it serves a real purpose as it does in a school setting.  I asses which grade level each child is on and purchase materials accordingly.  One may be ready for 4th grade math but still need 3rd grade English.  They may be reading 6th grade level books, so it would be more of a burden to try to keep up with grades.  (And I keep asking myself, “why” do we need to be in a certain grade?)

This alleviates any stress from feeling “behind”, and truthfully, we probably cover more than is standard in a year simply because of the dynamics of the year-round schedule and being able to do more with fewer children.

One more hint…

Lots of things are taught in text books because a child in a classroom doesn’t have another option for learning them.  Learning how to tell time, for example, doesn’t require worksheets.  It makes much more sense to a child to learn it in a real setting.  All three of my oldest children learned to tell time by asking me about the clock when they wanted to know the time.  I don’t ever remember even announcing, “OK, today we’re going to learn to tell time”. The same with counting money, liquid measurements, and many others similar concepts.  Even with reading, it was simply a matter of teaching letters, sounds, then “sounding out” the letters together.  I have never even used a phonics curriculum to teach any of my children to read and they all read very well.

Sometimes just looking at things more practically can free us up from those pre-conceived ideas about how things must be done.  And believing…believing that God has already done an amazing thing inside those little brains, and that you are well-equipped to lead them to the answers they need at the right time!

Homeschooling With Charlotte Mason

Part 2-Homeschooling With Charlotte Mason: Living Books

Part-4Homeschooling with Charlotte Mason: Writing, Spelling and Grammar

Part-5Homeschooling With Charlotte Mason: Nature Study

Part 6-Homeschooling With Charlotte Mason: The Arts

Part 7–Homeschooling With Charlotte Mason: Daily Plans

A wonderfully enthusiastic, Charlotte Mason lover/homeschool mom came and spoke at our home last week.  It was a great time of refreshing and inspiration!  I’ve always loved the CM method, but we’ve never followed it thoroughly and implemented the rich, encompassing educational philosophy.

It’s just too good not to share, so I thought I’d do a series on the Charlotte Mason method of homeschooling.  I would encourage you, whatever type of homeschooler you are, to consider implementing at least some of the basic concepts Mason taught. From the most structured to the most relaxed, any homeschool can benefit from her wisdom.  (And perhaps Charlotte’s method may be just the thing you need for the confidence to BEGIN homeschooling.)

Charlotte Mason, the British educator of  the late 19th century, taught from a three-pronged philosophy:

Education is an Atmosphere, a Discipline, a Life.

“By “Atmosphere,” Charlotte meant the surroundings in which the child grows up. A child absorbs a lot from his home environment. Charlotte believed that atmosphere makes up one-third of a child’s education.

By “Discipline,” Charlotte meant the discipline of good habits — and specifically habits of character. Cultivating good habits in your child’s life make up another third of his education.

The other third of education, “Life,” applies to academics. Charlotte believed that we should give children living thoughts and ideas, not just dry facts. So all of her methods for teaching the various school subjects are built around that concept.”

~Simply Charlotte Mason

So many of us want a detailed “just tell me what to do” plan.  And probably most homeschooling methods can be put into detail, but it’s crucial that we first understand the philosophy behind the education we wish to implement.

To flesh out the CM philosophy just a bit more:

“Charlotte emphasized treating each child as a person, not as a container into which you dump information. She believed that all children should receive a broad education, which she likened to spreading a feast of great ideas before them. Charlotte encouraged parents to have an active role in teaching and training their children in academics, fine arts, faith, citizenship, and habits of character….

And I love her foundational approach to parenting…this would have been her advice to a homeschooling parent asking “how can I prepare my young children for school?”

Charlotte Mason outlined two chief duties for parents.

1. “To form in his child right habits of thinking and behaving is a parent’s chief duty” (Vol. 2, p. 228).  Molding and shaping your child’s character with good habits is your first priority. If your day is too crowded to allow you time to stop and deal with bad habits, it’s too crowded.
2. “To nourish a child daily with loving, right, and noble ideas we believe to be the parent’s next duty” (Vol. 2, p.   228).  Feed your child’s mind with good and right ideas every day. Remember that a child soaks up a lot from his surroundings. So make sure everything you give him is wholesome and nourishing, including the atmosphere in which he grows. Feed his mind on what is true, honest, just, pure, lovely, of good report, excellent, virtuous, praise-worthy.”

~Simply Charlotte Mason

We could talk about these few fundamental concepts all day, couldn’t we?

As I take a sweeping glance across the culture at our young people, I see blaring evidence of children who have not been nurtured, who have not been treated like valuable, growing individuals, who have not had parents daily building habits of character, who have not been given wholesome atmospheres full of “living thoughts and ideas”.  Charlotte Mason resurrects the idea for us that children are worth investing our lives in.

Part 2-Homeschooling With Charlotte Mason: Living Books

Part 3-Homeschooling: Charlotte Mason: The Schedule is Your Servant

Part 4-Homeschooling with Charlotte Mason: Writing, Spelling and Grammar

Part 5-Homeschooling With Charlotte Mason: Nature Study

Part 6-Homeschooling With Charlotte Mason: The Arts

Part 7–Homeschooling With Charlotte Mason: Daily Plans

In my estimation, this is one of the most brilliantly written poems of all time.  Every word counts, and it encapsulates, without saying, the essence of a person under the control of the spirit of God (and then some!)  We are memorizing it as a family and I thought you might like to ponder it with your children as well.

(It reads more smoothly if you will pause most at the punctuation, not the end of the lines.)

If

by Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream – and not make dreams your master;
If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on”;

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings – nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run –
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And – which is more – you’ll be a Man my son!