“I have come that you may have life, and have it more abundantly.” John 10:10
I don’t know…I’m thinkin’ twins.
I confessed to a friend that right about now I’m feeling “overwhelmed even with life”. (Which lasted about two hours and then I was better again 😉
She took the opportunity to heap a big dose of encouragement my way by saying…”You probably didn’t realize it, but what you just said was beautifully poetic…two lives, one body–what’s not overwhelming?”
I am 36 and expecting my 8th child. I’m not pretending it’s easy. I’ve also developed a severe case of anemia (very tired and winded) which has ignited pruritus (severe itching) and the anemia treatment is as bad as the condition (I’ll spare you the details. By the way, if anyone knows how to choke down black strap molasses, I’d be more than grateful.)
I’ve gained more weight than ever and sometimes it seems more than my frame can bear. This week I’ve been prone to bursting into tears over nothing more than dropping something on the floor that necessitates my bending over 😉 I know, I’m a big baby, and feel guilty for even complaining…sort of.
But I’ve never been one to deny that having children is HARD, and yet that fact has never been a reason for me to NOT have them. My husband works in the scorching hot sun complete with dripping humidity all day and it’s hard too…only he doesn’t complain as much as I do. “Do hard things.”
This condition has caused me to ponder a few things lately…
1. I have a deep compassion for people who suffer chronic pain. Pain that has no end in sight and worse yet, is not working to bring a joyful reward that will last forever.
2. My children are awesome. They have delighted in helping me. They clamour over getting to feel the baby kick, they ask me how I’m feeling every 15 minutes, or what they can get me, and the silly thoughts that many adults have about their “working too hard because mom’s pregnant again” has not even crossed their minds. The joyful expectation of another baby completely wipes out any thoughts of a little extra serving they’ve had to do. It’s an innocent, beautiful thing.
3. My husband is amazing. Not only does he not complain about his work, he goes the extra mile to take anything he can off of me–even if it’s bringing in paper plates or piling us in to go out for pizza. Oh, he also pretends that the 45 extra pounds weight I’ve gained “only adds to my beauty”…yeah right.
4. “This momentary, light affliction is producing for me an eternal weight of glory far beyond all comparison…” 2 Corinthians 4:17
I’m still going natural–especially since we found out the epidural, which we thought would be covered under our “universal fee”–just in case–is, in fact, not covered. So whereas if hubby had a shred of doubt about whether he wanted me to go natural, all doubt has been removed to the tune of $900 (price of an epidural). He is VERY pro-natural now. His “cheering plan” involves the scene from “Facing the Giants” where the coach is banging on the ground and screaming to get the blind-folded Brock to the end zone…y-e-a-h…if anyone has hints for him, I’d be grateful. (I’m trying to ignore the fact that I’ll probably be giving birth to a 13 pound baby.)
(Forget that last paragraph. It was a terrible idea and totally worth $900.)
All your prayers are coveted as I enter these last days. I’m collecting and pre-publishing posts so that you won’t get bored while I’m gone 😉 My daughter will be the official photographer, so maybe we’ll have lots of sweet pictures to share when it’s all over.
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I am so happy for you and you look Great!!! I can’t believe that it is already time:)
and again I don’t believe in birth control….He is in full control and I Love Him!!!!!
Kelly, I feel for you. I’m 38 and expecting my 9th and this pregnancy certainly hasn’t been a breeze! I, too, am anemic for the first time in my life which isn’t helping. I read someone on QF digest saying that fully half of the pregnant Moms that she’s known of this year are anemic. Many for the first time ever. Weird, huh? I wonder what’s going on. Anyhow, hang in there. You can do it with no epidural, just count it down. That’s what I do. Once you get to 5cm tell yourself that you can do 30 more cx and when that’s done you’ll be so close to the end you can do another 10. By then it’ll be almost over. Good luck!
Paris
You look beautiful! And what an awesome post…you’re right, it IS hard- the pregnancy, the delivery, the baby stage, etc. It’s all hard. But, it’s all worth it a hundred times over. And it’s such a sweet molding process that the LORD takes us through; denial of self! Oh how I need that lesson constantly. I will be lifting you up in prayer as your big day arrives! Do you know the gender? Or are you going to be surprised? Much love in Christ to you!
Hey, we love molasses in our oatmeal, with butter. Also, it goes great in banana smoothies (and throw in some protien powder whydoncha). I gained 46 lbs with my first, despite a healthy diet (and a few sweets, ok?). I lost 30 lbs within 2 weeks of delivery, which suggests to me that a certain amount of that might have been water? You still look slender, so maybe you’re retaining a bit of water – not in the unhealthy might be a problem way, just a bit extra that sometimes happens to us all. I’m so sorry you’re so physically uncomfortable. But really, after all this natural childbirth might just feel like a breeze in comparison! 🙂
What a beautiful picture, the lighting is wonderful!!!
Kelly, you look wonderful and FULL OF LIFE LOL (to be full of a Baby’s life is a BEAUTIFUL THING). Your children will be BETTER people for serving you at this time and better parents and spouses for learning early to serve in love another person besides themselves (I know, what a concept 🙂
You are in my prayers.
Many Blessings 🙂
Ace
Do you really think it could be twins?!! 😀 Have you not had an ultrasound? Wouldn’t that be exciting though- a double blessing! I suppose that could pose a mental obstacle for your first “natural” childbirth. Regardless, you are in my prayers!
What an amazing, supportive family you have!
Kris,
It’s a surprise!
Paris–great tip! (I’m open to all natural childbirth tips 😉
What a beautiful picture! I’ve still got until the end of August (expecting our 5th), and I look at least that big, if not bigger (maybe it’s because I’m only 5’1″ so there isn’t much of a place for Baby to go!)!
I’ll be praying for you as your time draws near. Our first four children were all born at home (praying for another home birth this time), and it seems every time I’m in labor all I can do is think “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” (Not sure I quoted that perfectly, but that is what is always in my mind as I’m giving birth!). It just kind of goes over and over in my mind and it helps me to focus on Him.
May the Lord bless you,
Joy
Oh, Kelly, I am SOOOOO there with you–having just had many of these same complaints only three weeks ago when I was overdue (again) with my latest pregnancy. Of course, this one was my second full-term pregnancy, not my eighth, so, you get more sympathy 🙂
I will certainly be praying for you in these last weeks. Oddly enough, can I say that your honest sharing here is actually ENCOURAGING to me, as a younger mom? Now, I don’t feel like a weirdo for being nervous about having more kids or for saying, “Gosh, TWO pregnancies wore me out; how will I handle more?” Just as you’ve said, it’s hard…it’s still hard eight kids down the road…but it’s worth it.
And that will be my prayer for you…that in the midst of all the hardship, even BECAUSE of all the hardship, the fact that it is so WORTH IT will be ever-more tangible to you. And, yes, I’ll also be praying that it gets “less hard.”
~Bethany
Floradix is a non-prescription iron/herb liquid. It doesn’t have the nasty side effects of prescription iron. The best price I’ve found for Floradix is at Vitacost.com. I’m currently taking it for anemia as well. It doesn’t taste great but it’s not horrible either. I take it and then drink a glass of orange juice, since Vit C helps iron absorption. Dairy products inhibit iron absorption, among other things.
You look great!
Mommaof10
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Oh, and I forgot that you haven’t gone natural BEFORE. Having gone pain med-free twice (once with a pitocin induction which is WAAAAAAY worse!), I am available for any encouragement and questioning you might have. You know where to reach me 🙂 You really can do it. I promise. In fact, I actually ENJOYED labor this time (I know, I’m nuts…but it really was so much better without pitocin that I was just grateful the entire time!!) Remember: BREATHE! That is my biggest advice. Breathe deep, let your belly expand, and be sure to breathe down into your lower back, as well. The more oxygen you get to your uterus, the less painful the contractions will be–and the more you’ll relax, which is an added boost to help with pain management.
I told my husband today that if he didn’t hurry up and write a post to encourage husbands on how to coach their wives in labor that all those who have asked for it will have already had their babies!! He said he’d work on it tonight!
Btw, I also get severely anemic while pregnant. My hemoglobin has gotten as low as 7 which is not good.
The best thing I’ve found (and I’ve tried just about everything I think!) is a plant-based liquid supplement called “Floradix” or “Floravital.” You just drink a few teaspoons several times a day. It makes me feel so good!!!
I also take black strap throughout pregnancy. I usually mix it into smoothies or shakes or put some in my oatmeal.
And also liquid chlorophyl is really good to boost your blood! I mix it into water or OJ.
Hope that helps some!
Daja
Re: the itchiness. If it’s excess you need to read up here:
http://www.itchypregnancy.com/
Some ladies have a serious condition with this.
All the best
Kelly,I think you look beautiful.I am kinda jealous.I was nearly 39 when I had my last little one almost 7 months ago now.I’m really hoping God will bless us again but I know I’m probably ageing out soon.This was my hardest pregnancy and most painfull and why is it that when you can’t bend over everything you touch seems to end up on the floor.
Should we take a pole on what you are having?
My guess is a Boy.I’m usually right half the time.
I will be praying for you and your baby.Oh,and for the coach too.
I highly recommend liquid chlorophyll in large or frequent doses throughout the day. Nature Sunshine or Nature’s Way brand has mint added. It’s very refreshing and really makes a difference fast. Interestingly, I’m 36 and in the 27 week of my eighth pregnancy and I was thinking about whether it was worth the hardship. Of course, the answer is what keeps us going. Although, this pregnancy is entered with some trepidation because I lost my last one at week 13.
As for having it naturally, just remember how many women over thousands of years have done it before you. You can do it, and personally, I think you’ll be glad you did. If you had access to a shower or tub. I really find a hot shower spraying down on the top of my belly amazingly helpful. I’ve tried hot baths, which help, too, but I tend to get a bit overheated even with fans blowing in the bathroom and then feel faint and panicky. So, the shower works great for me.
Hope this helps. Praying for God’s best for you. Lisa M.
Kelly, YOU CAN DO IT!!!! I didn’t birth all of my babies naturally – just the last 4. Here are some things that worked for me.
I totally agree w/ Bethany: “The more oxygen you get to your uterus, the less painful the contractions will be…” This is so true for me. Inhale slowly through your nose until your lungs are so full that you can’t take in any more air, then exhale slowly through your mouth until you can’t blow any more air out. It helps to practice even before you go into labor. On the inhale I would think, “Fill up the lungs with air.” On the exhale I would think, “Oxygen to the uterus.” You can meditate on whatever you need to during the inhaling/ exhaling. Another thing I used was (inhale), “I can do all things…”: (exhale) “… through Christ who strengthens me.” The breathing really distracts you some from the pain.
Try to keep from tensing up parts of your body i.e. clenched fists, furrowed brow, tense shoulders, etc. I asked my husband, friend, and/ or nurses to lightly tap the area that they saw me tensing up so that I would release it and relax. This really helped me.
Also, try to keep the room quiet – no phones ringing, ask the nurses to keep machines from beeping, only soft speaking, etc. This will help you to concentrate on your breathing.
I asked my husband and nurses, if they saw me struggling or losing focus, to remind me that God created my body to do this.
MOVE AROUND as much as possible! Change positions a lot. Rock in a rocking chair. Sway back and forth. Sit on a birthing ball. Walk. Lean against a wall. Use the bathroom at least every hour.
When I was nearing the end of my last 2 births, squatting helped to relieve a lot of pressure. If they have a squatting bar that they can attach to the hospital bed then ask for it and use it. It opens your pelvis up more to squat.
Hope this helps. I will be praying. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mrs. R
I think you look gorgeous! Good luck with the rest of the pregnancy and delivery. I’ll look forward to seeing some beautiful pictures from your daughter too (I’ve seen her blog and she’s an amazing photographer).
Praying for you and the newest little one! Lisa
We can’t wait to see pictures here in VA of this newest blessing! I agree with all of the other posts, you look beautiful! We’ll be praying!
Kelly, I’ve had 3 rounds of iron transfusions, which made a world of difference. Basically you just sit with an IV iron drip for 45 minutes or so for 6-10 sessions… If your insurance covers it, you’ll feel loads better. (‘course I wasn’t pregnant at the time)
Thank you for being so “real”–you are such an encouragement to me.
Praying for you and the arrival of your newest blessing.
Hello Kelly, I say your comment on Ruby’s site (Mumma’s Place) which immediately made me come over and join her in suggesting you get that itch checked out.
I had obstetric cholestasis with my 4th pregnancy. It came on suddenly in week 34. If your itching feels like it’s ‘under’ the skin, worse at night in your hands and feet and no amount of scratching, ointment, cream or bathing can get rid of it then it is possible you have it.
A Liver Function Test (they test your blood) will get the results you need to know. I was lucky they found out quickly and monitored my baby closely until I was induced safely. (I was also very big, and had a large baby – 10lbs at 37weeks.)
Praying all will be well with the remainder of your pregnancy. You look really healthy in the photo, but I can so relate to crying just because I had to bend over and pick something up. Have to admit I found the last weeks of all my pregnancies quite unbearable. I think it’s God’s way of making expectant mothers look forward to labour!!!
I so very much appreciate all the encouraging words you’ve sent my way, and the tips and advice–it as been an oasis.
INTERESTING NEWS…
I woke up at 1:30 last night itching must worse than ever…the “I’m going to go crazy” kind all over my body.
I got up and took a Benadryl and sat down to read all these lovely comments. Ruby’s comment included a link about a possible condition (Cholestasis) of the liver sometimes occurring in pregnancy that could be causing the itching.
By my estimation, it seems I have this condition. The scary part is that it poses a high risk to the baby–even fatality–and besides some drugs that may hold it off, delivery is the only cure. Everything I read said the doctors usually want to deliver the baby ASAP.
Needless to say, I didn’t get much sleep. I rather spent a lot of time crying and praying. I’ll be calling my doctor as soon as their office opens to discuss coming in for a blood test.
Of course I’m praying that I don’t have Cholestasis. And that they won’t have to induce the baby (going natural with an early/forced induction doesn’t make me want to dance.)
I’ll give updates.
I just read here about your fears I am praying and will be hourly until I hear other wise.I have a friend who had this they did deliver her but both mother and baby are fine. The baby is 13 now.
Everyone keeps asking me if I’m having twins…I have to say, “no, I’m just really, really fat.” I have had several people in the last two days ask if I am having twins or triplets. How depressing…the only way it wouldn’t be depressing is if I really was having twins or triplets lol then I wouldn’t mind looking like I was.
You look beautiful, Kelly! And, don’t feel bad about crying when you drop something… I’m already doing that at 24 weeks on bad days! 🙂 I second the adding blackstrap molasses to your oatmeal… with raisins, too! And, remember that when you get to the point in labor where you are saying “I can’t do this” you are usually in transition and it will be over soon! Have your husband remind you of that! I will be praying for you!
You look beautiful! I am so excited for you. Will be prayin’
Oh, Kelley. For some reason I was thinking you were due in October. But that must have been your last little blessing. I am praying you have some rest and some peace of mind regarding the Cholestasis. With my most recent pregnancy, I decided to take on a whole new perspective. My husband let me spend as much time alone as I could (when he was home, of course) and I just rubbed my belly and prayed. I had a lot of anxiety about that birth, but it went very smoothly. She’ll be two this summer and I often refer to her as my “healing” birth. Anyway, praying for you!
That should read, as much time alone as I could, during the last month. It sure would have been nice for the whole pregnancy…lol.
HI Kelly,
anxious to hear if you have Cholestasis. Please let us know when you find out!
Also, to make you feel better, I just got asked if I am having a boy or girl by my neighbor… I had my baby six months ago! :0) My friend had this liver condition and had to have her baby delivered immediately so I am glad you are checking it out!
Also, under things you were pondering, I love number 1. I throw up all nine months of my pregnancy and take chemo drugs to help stop it. I gain a deep, deep sympathy for those in chronic pain or sickness! We get a baby out of our ailments!
praying… katie
I’ve been praying for you & your pregnancy these past months. Let us know about the liver condition!
With my 4th baby I labored for the first time using a rocking chair and was very impressed with how much better it was than just being in the hospital bed.
Kelly,
Sending up prayers for the safety and health of both mother and child…
*raising hand* Yup. Another anemic pregnant mommy over here too. And I’m in the *gasp* over 40 group. So that means that in addition to the “you’ve already got your hands full” comments, I also get the “I got my two and now I’m done”. Let’s not even go into the intense pressure to have an amnio (I don’t buy the “peace of mind” or the “gives you a chance to prepare mentally” argument. A needle? Near my little gymnast? Ha!)
I don’t know why but this picture post brought tears to my eyes. I’m always amazed with pregnancy and the suffering you are enduring for this new life is beautiful to me. I like when you said “I’ve never been one to deny that having children is HARD, and yet that fact has never been a reason for me to NOT have them”
Just thought I’d throw this in there. I have only 2 children, a 2 year old boy and a 1 year old girl, just less than a year apart. People always, always, always make the comment, you have one of each, now you can be done. As if they’re giving me permission to stop reproducing or gently advising me cause I must not know any better if, gasp!, I would want more than two children. I don’t know how many I will have, there’s only One who knows that. And even though I fear I may only be able to have 3 or 4 total due to the first two being c-sections (my son due to 30 hours of unprogressive labor and my daughter was a breech 29 week preemie), the Lord can do anything.
Oh, Kelly! I’ll be praying for you.
It really sounds like you need to get your hands on some healthy doses of Nettle and Dandelion Root. BOTH of them are great sources of iron AND also support the liver. Truthfully, every pregnant woman should be taking them from day one of the pregnancy. It’s a shame that doctors aren’t more educated about the benefits of herbs for pregnancy and totally preventing conditions such as anemia and liver problems.
I don’t want to give unsolicited advice, but I’d love to help you through this! Give me a call if you want. =)
Hi Kelly! I’m sorry to hear about the odd goings-on physically with this pregnancy. I’m also anemic every time I get pregnant. One thing to remember is to not be taking iron too close to having anything with high amounts of calcium. They prevent each other from being absorbed. Also, you may want to try kelp (from seaweed) or spirulina powder. They don’t taste the best, but can easily be disguised by mixing it in with food, and both are packed with iron.
I know God’s taking care of you and your little one, and I will be praying that things will get better for you!
Again, thanks SO much for all the encouragement! It really helps to feel like even blog friends I’ve never met are rallied around supporting me…I appreciate that so much.
Just returned from my doctor who did a bile test and put me on a fetal monitor for 30 minutes. The short version is, he suspects Cholestasis, but I’ll know the results of the test Monday, and as of now, he said the baby’s activity looked great. He was hesitant to discuss much until he knew for sure if I have it.
I inquired about his feelings regarding the risks and possible need for induction…he said he might see it necessary to induce in a week or two, but not now, even if he knew I had it. I guess he read the concern on my face about induction/natural childbirth, etc. and I thought is was funny when he said,
“Kelly, induction is not a sin.” Of course I’ve never said or hinted at that, I’ve just always been very anti-induction, even before my thoughts on natural childbirth. But, always grateful IF medical intervention reduces the effects of a real threat.
So, it’s a waiting game…admittedly a little nerve (w)racking, but I know my Father knows all things and holds this little one in His hands. Praise God for His sovereignty…if I can just keep my focus there.
You look amazing, Kelly. And you’re SO in my prayers. I hope the rest of your pregnancy is comfortable and that you have a safe and easy birth.
God bless.
Kelly, I was just thinking along these lines yesterday. Thanks so much for posting this. I’m 35 expecting number 6 and I am already having to wear compression hose in this scorching weather and well, lets just say I feel like bursting into tears frequently as well…
I’ve had the same thoughts too, about those that live with chronic pain and watched a lady getting from her wheelchair into her car. It’s relatively easy for me to shop (when not pregnant.) And it’s hard to feel sorry for myself when putting things in that perspective.
I’ve gone natural every time. Know what? I am TERRIFIED more every time. I have to laugh at myself, ‘cuz it sounds crazy. I just don’t think I can do it one more time. Then the time comes and I just can’t bring myself to do the epidural either. And I can’t give any coaching tips b/c my dh just stands behind me quietly telling them not to listen to me about giving me the epidural and makes me mad. ROFL
Thanks for letting me vent too I guess. Did I mention I am only 9 weeks along??????????
I did natural childbirth with both of my children. It was “the thing” in the 80’s (starting from the 60’s, I think). Anyway, it was not bad and I had back labor both times. I also had quick labors.
Tip: Use your legs and push hard against the footboard of the bed (or against your husband if you have no footboard) during a contraction when it is time to push. This works! It seems to diffuse the pain and help you to push at the same time. The doctor also gave me oxygen to breathe (just a little ) both times and that helped a little too, to take the edge off the pain.
Kelly ,
I was just sure you where having that baby today.I will keep praying for you and baby.
My Father in heaven please bring Kelly peace to her body mind and spirit.May she feel your love overwhelm her and carry her through this time.May she be comforted by the now familiar movement of her precious little one and may she soon know the joy of holding another healthy new born blessing from our great and mighty creator.In the name of Jesus Christ I pray amen.
Lucy T – “My guess is a Boy.I’m usually right half the time.” I laughed out loud with this! 🙂
Mary, good tips, I might have to try them.
I mean, lots of good tips here, I just hadn’t heard Mary’s yet…
Well I have to say that you look beautiful! I will be praying for you! Hugs and can’t wait to see that little precious one!
Continuing to pray. You are great to keep us updated. It’s only 8.30am here but I have been praying over night for a good result. The Lord be with you.
There’s a long list of benefits from liquid chlorophyll. Not only does it help the anemia, but it detoxifies the liver and blood, and it adds Vitamin K. These appear to be concerns with the cholestasis. If you do a quick google, you’ll find even more.
Kelly,
I have had CHolestasis with all 4 of my pregnancies-and the itching usually started around 28 weeks (nearly wanted to die/lose my mind at times) and with my son didn’t start until 34 weeks-thank GOD!
ANyhow, I did personally do it all natural and my body went into labor on it’s own @ 39 weeks every time
I woudl HIGHLY reccomend you drink at least a gallon of water a day to help your body keep flushing out and I highly reccomend milk thistle,dandelion,etc to support your struggling liver.
As good as fats are for your baby-the more you eat the more your body will produce the bile to digest them so limit it as much as you can expcept for the very best.
Eat lots of fresh fruit,veggies,etc.Some women have had a reduction of symptoms with taking a fiber product-the type you mix with water and drink quickly(psylium.
I think getting out in the sunshine helps-it did for me.Also SAM-e is a very expensive product but I used it as this is a serious condition and wanted to do all I could naturally to supportmy body and keep the baby healthy.Some studies have shown it to be a possibel alternative to the actigall which Dr.’s prescribe.I have never taken that product,but may if I went through it again.Some women have a complete reduction in itchign with the actigall and others dont’ seem to notice any relief:(
If you have any questions please e-mail me!
Prayers,
Jeaneen
Would you be interested in recipes for homemade baked beans, or homemade molasses cookies? Both have molasses in them. Also, licorice candy has molasses in it. Also, I have heard that using cast iron cookware adds iron to the body.
Definately praying for you and your newest little one. God is not shocked at this new possibility. I am so glad He has it alllllll in His very capable hands. I will continue to pray for peace, a favorable outcome, and God’s perfect and pleasing will to be done.
Mary,
I have used the iron skillet as I heard the same thing! I might check into those recipes…although latest advice with this possible new condition is very little processed foods so my liver can rest–of course this news comes right before my baby shower tomorrow! (Cake, mocha punch, yum…)
Lori,
Yeah,I’m clevar that way.
Kelly, praying for you as you wait to hear back about the results of the tests. It’s great news that the baby seems healthy, though. Who knows? Maybe the blessing will be that someone on your blog let you know about this condition and it will end up keeping you and your baby healthy to be armed with the information?
And, I just wanted to offer, as someone who has gone pain med free with an induced labor (my first, actually, which is usually by far the longest), you CAN do that, too. God will provide. I will say that it was more painful with an induction (mostly because you don’t have much time to recoup between contractions, so you’re getting less oxygen and it’s harder to focus), but it really can be done. I’m sure you, as a veteran mom, would do even better than I did as a first-timer. I’m mentioning it only because I was terrified when I was told I had to be induced because I did not want pain meds. Then, my midwife told me both her sons were delivered with pain-med-free labors that required induction! Suddenly, I felt like I could do it. So, I’m offering you the same encouragement if, God forbid, you need to be induced.
~Bethany
Praying for you and the little one, Kelly. And have a wonderful time at that baby shower!!
Two out of my 3 kids were inductions. I wasn’t happy about it, but it turned out to be the best thing (with #2, I had beginning preeclampsia; with #3, the cord was around her neck and it could have had a tragic ending). Both were fine, and #2 was completely without pain medications. (Long labor with #3; I wimped out and got the epidural).
Please keep us updated out in cyber land. Love, Lisa
These pain-free induction stories are so encouraging–thank you! I’m beginning to “rev up” my mental preparation in the case of induction…we’ll see.
Kelly,’
I have a list of encouraging birthing scriptures that I used in my third birth (also my only induction)
They are wonderful…if you’re interested, I can email them to you…my email is blessedmamaofmany@yahoo.com
Brandy,
The picture of Ken standing behind you saying that made me laugh so hard!
Sandy,
Yes I am! Your phone call was a God-send.
Good luck Word Warrior, I know I”m a thorn in your side but I am sending good thoughts your way. Pregnancy is wonderful and children are fantastic. I hope you and your husband can figure out a way to get you the health care and pain medication you deserve and need. “Natural” is great–I had a home birth for my second child and I’m a huge believer in it–but lots of great doctors and nurses and scientists have struggled for hundreds of years to make childbirth safer, and healthier, and less damaging to women and their babies. If you need to take advantage of one of those advances, don’t be ashamed. And don’t let thrift or anyone else’s judgements about god’s will stand in your way. If god weren’t behind scientific advances would they have happened?
aimai
Thank you, aimai.
I hope you share some pictures from the baby shower!!!
My husband finally wrote his post to coaches!
Here it is: http://gombojav.blogspot.com/2009/06/ganas-top-ten-for-husbands-coaching.html
I wish I lived near you so I could doula for you. 🙂 Have a great birth!
Daja,
A thousand thanks to you and your husband!!! I’ll send my husband over as soon as I can!
Oh, I wish you lived near too…if I have to be induced I’m certain to need some extra support.
I emailed you Kelly.
Actually..if any other ladies are interested in the list of scriptures…feel free to email me at blessedmamaofmany@yahoo.com
Kelly,
I was induced with my last baby at 37 weeks. I had the “pregnancy rash”. I could not sleep for about 5 weeks and scratched constantly. All that to say, I was induced and had an epidural, although I did not plan to do either. We had a beautiful baby girl, three weeks early, who weighed 8 lbs 10 ounces. And, the labor only lasted about 4 hours once induced. All that to say, if you are miserable, and can’t sleep, the Lord will give you guidance and your doctor will help. I would never change how we’ve had any of our babies, it’s just the way it worked out.
Blessings to you and your family – Dee
P.S. All though she was “early” she had a ton of hair and long fingernails and weighed nearly 9 pounds. Just saying, you may be ready to deliver.
Just came back to see how you were getting on. After reading your updated comments I just wanted to offer this – the induction I had when I had cholestasis was not what I had planned on either. But I still did it without pain medication. All 6 of my pregnancies were without epidural or any other pain medications. And the first 4 were inductions for medical reasons. So if it happens that your doctor does think an induction would be best for baby, you can still go natural from there on. (Ask him/her to just break your waters and hold off on the other contraction-inducing medication until they’ve given your body at least a half hour to react to the waters breaking. Sometimes that’s all it takes and you can then have a natural birth, although they will probably want to do a bit more monitoring of the baby throughout the labour than in you had not been induced. I’ll be remembering you in my prayers.
Catherine,
These are just the stories I need to hear–thank you!
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I just want to thank you for your encouragement. I’m 33 weeks with my 4th (I’m 31 years old), and feel about the same. More weight than I’ve ever gained at this point, everything hurts, chasing the toddler is almost too much, I’m overwhelmed and unable to do the minimums… I haven’t quite found the list of things to be grateful about yet, but I do appreciate “knowing” someone else is in the same boat. The boat feels lonely, sometimes. :]
I’ll be praying for you about this condition you’ve been tested for, and that you’ll find peace with whatever method brings your precious babe into the world. I’ve had hospital births, an induction, and even one at home (which I’m aiming for again). God bless you!
Kelly,
You look wonderful!!! Praying for you.
Hy Kelly! I’ve been a lurker for awhile now, but I thought I would come out of my lurking status to let you know I am praying for you! I have never been pregnant, so I don’t know what you are going through, but God does and He’s great and taking care of his children!
I also wanted to comment about one little sentence that really struck out at me. You wrote “do hard things.” That is something I have been praying over for awhile now. You see, even though I am 27 and I’ve been married for nearly 7 years, I am just now beginning my life as a stay at home wife and God has softened my heart so much to the idea of Biblical submission. Trying to change 7 years of bad habits in regards to how I treat my husband is HARD, but it’s so worth it! Whenever I feel my inner brat show up (and she shows up a lot)I just have to pray about and think about “doing hard things” so that my Savior can be glorified and His word won’t be blasphemed. Thanks for your wonderful words of wisdom and God bless!
-Becky, the Rambin’ Rat
Becky,
Thanks for de-lurking and sharing with us! Keep doing the hard things 😉
I’ve held off throwing my hat in the ring, and it looks like you have so many bases covered except for the twins aspect. Were you serious? With all your pregnancies before, are you measuring differently and feeling more movement? I have six sweeties and my last were twins. I thought I was bigger for all different reasons and thought it was just an active little one, although it was a lot more active. Mainly, I wanted twins so badly I thought I was just “seeing twins” in everything and I didn’t want to disappoint myself. It was the day before they were born (5 weeks early) that I felt hiccups in two separate places at the same time and *knew* I was having twins. Awesome!!
I had a midwife, had all my children without meds and it was wonderful. What an exciting time! I’ll be praying and waiting to hear your news.
Ohlookaduck,
Wow! I love that. I meant to answer Quinn about the twins thing…
It has mainly been a joke, because I did have an ultrasound at 14 weeks and only one baby was identified. (But I’ve heard of a “hiding baby”, so you never know, right?)
Funny story…yesterday my friend gave me a Doppler so I wouldn’t be so worried about the baby, and I thought I’d try to find another one just for fun. About 8 inches lower than the heartbeat I did find a nother heart beat. My children were coming out of their skin and I called my friend who laughted and told me the cord would produce a “heartbeat” as well.
So, bigger, yes. And pretty active. But we’ll be shocked (and thrilled) if it’s twins 😉
I didn’t go all the way through the comments, so I don’t know if anyone mentioned it before… mixing blackstrap molasses with any fruit juice at all helps. Something high in vitamin C would be good because it would improve absorption too. Double benefit. 😉
I praying and rooting for you all the way from Jamaica. 😀
Blessings and {{HUGS}}
Thank you Ruth! (Lately I found that many comments get sucked into the spam folder–no idea why–but I check it frequently and “release them”, so it will eventually show up 😉
Hi Kelly! We’ll be praying for you & your baby. For the molasses, make molasses tea (add a tablespoon to a cup of hot water) or make molasses cookies. They’re actually very soft like a cupcake almost and delicious! As for natural childbirth tips, what worked for me each time was different. The first time I used visualization, the second I threw a sheet over my head so no one could disturb and then sat in a rocking chair and rocked for dear life when transition hit (that was my longest labor – about 7 hours). This last time I birthed in a birthing pool and the water really helped. The only problem was that every time the midwives or my husband moved, they bumped the pool and I lost my focus. I’ve noticed that if everything is quiet and still, I can focus on laboring and it really isn’t that bad. Just focus on the moment and don’t even THINK about how much longer you have to go. If things get really rough have someone remind you that soon you’ll be holding a new miracle in your hands. Also, PRAY for a short, easy labor. It works for me. I have very very short labors (the average is bout 2 hours, but really hard pregnancies!). Also, have some one with you while you’re in labor who will pray over you the entire time. My closest friend was with me at our last birth and she continuously prayed over me. When my water had been broken for nearly 12 hours and no contractions and nothing else working, she prayed over me and in under 5 minutes I was 8 cm and in 15 min the midwives were yelling for my husband. At the moment when I thought I couldn’t go any farther (this was my fastest and hardest labor, she get my attention and said “Elizabeth, look at all the birds God has sent to welcome your baby into the world.” I looked up at an old pine tree and it was FULL of songbirds! It immediately brought my attention to God and reminded me that I was not alone, but that God was there with me. 😀
You can do this natural thing! Honestly, my husband isn’t a big cheerleader, but it helped me a LOT to have a Doula present…basically a friend or someone trained in labor support. It helped SO MUCH! I guess my biggest advice is to not hold back and don’t be afraid to do whatever it takes to feel better in labor (for me with my last baby this meant screaming for an epidural and a csection while pushing…yeah I had a homebirth, neither of those things were happening!). Later you won’t remember it and it won’t matter. Just let go and let your body do its thing!
Lydia,
Oh my goodness I’m laughing so hard–screaming for a c-section at home! Good stuff.
Kelly,
Thanks for your transparency and your courage! Having children is not easy, but as you know, brings many rewards both in this world and the next one.
When I was very anemic during one of my pregnancies and had to get my hemoglobin up in a hurry to qualify for a home birth, I used Yellow Dock tincture with great results. Have you tried that? Liquid cholorophyl is also great.
I have had 2 traditional births, 6 totally natural births with 2 of those at home with a midwife, and then ended up with 2 induced births with epidurals. Something I never planned — but as moms, we have to be flexible! I heartily recommend natural childbirth! It is not easy, but doable, and worth it all! however, from my experience, an unmedicated birth and an induction do not make a good combination!!
The best thing my husband did for me during the hard part of labor was read through special verses I had prepared beforehand dealing with childbirth, suffering, etc. This gave me something to focus on and strengthened me for the challenge of the hardest contractions that occur during transition.
Hope something here helps you!
many blessings,
Elizabeth
busymomof10@gmail.com
Elizabeth,
Thanks so much! I have been taking liquid chlorophyll and it seems to be helping–also some herbal tea. I may need to try the Yellow Dock.
Kelly, I’ve not been by your blog for so long! Glad to see all is well with your sweet baby! I would have been due last month, so it’s bittersweet for me! I do pray for you!
Good way to get blackstrap molasses down:
1 cup milk (or whatever you use in place of such)
1/2 banana
1/4-1/2 tsp. vanilla
1-2 TBs. molasses
I have used half honey, half molasses to help. I now use agave syrup as it’s low glycemic.
The banana just cuts the strong molasses flavor somehow! It tastes *kind of* like a malt! 😉
I hope that helps! It’s how I raised my usually low hemoglobin with more than one baby–I actually got up to 11.5 when I usually struggle to get into the 10s!
Blessings on you, dear sister!
Trisch
Thank you, Trisch! I’ll have to try that.
Hey, Kelly. You’re a fantastic mom! Praying for your quick delivery! Blessings, Sister.
Thank you, Shauna!
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