I wanted to post this video for one reason…while pro-choice advocates love to rake the pro-life advocates over the coals for “not caring about women”, it is so important that the truth continues to be told–abortion–the “quick fix for hurting women”, (not to mention the undeniable murder of life) leaves women in a much worse state than they were before. Why is this fact shoved under the rug? If they really care about women, why are they so quick to suggest abortion while denying the longer-term, more harmful effects it will have?
Pro-life advocates care VERY much about women–we are not “pro-fetus” as one commenter recently accused (I deleted several comments accusing the pro-life readers here of being “non-educated idiots” who she absolutely believed would be “shunned by God”).
No, we’re pro-every life, even attesting that Dr. Tiller’s murder was NOT justified. We care deeply about hurting women who find themselves in difficult situations (we ARE some of those women). But we’re wise enough to know that killing babies within their wombs is not going to solve their problems but make them bigger.
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I applaud this young woman for her courage in speaking out. I don’t have that same courage, which is why I posted anon.
I had an abortion also and bought into the LIE that it was not a baby. It wasn’t until I was pregnant later that I realized that I had paid a doctor to kill my baby.
It is a LIE. Girls and women may not know it is murder when they do it, but they find out that it is later. It is the most horrible thing to live with. To miss a baby you didn’t think you wanted. It has been 18 years since I did this and I still can’t get over it.
Anon,
Thank you for speaking the truth. It’s the one message I wish I could get across to so many hostile pro-choicers: I AM FOR WOMEN…which is precisely why I keep talking about this issue.
Pro-choice is anti-woman. The problems associated with abortion are terrible. That is why you will find so many people who had them protesting against them.
I am looking for the story and music video you made about your friend who lost their baby in March. Could you help me find it? Thank you! Carmen mcrfampalmer@yahoo.com
Carmen,
I think this is it…
http://generationcedar.com/2009/04/gratitude-in-grief-weeping-with-those.html
To Anon about hurting from abortion. Most Crisis pregnancy centers offer help to those suffering from the wounds of abortion. Usually, they protect your identity until and unless you wish otherwise. So many walking wounded. You are not alone. The Lord does forgive (He forgave those who took His Son). He loves you and wants to carry this for you. May you find healing in Raffa, the Lord who heals.
Blessings to you.
Wow! If “pro-choice” women won’t listen to this, then they just CAN NOT hear the truth. How devastating for this young women but she is amazing for sharing her experience with the world. Hopefully, it will encourage other women from making the same mistake.
Marcie,
I have asked for and received forgiveness, but forgiving myself is another thing entirely. I doubt the guilt will ever go completely away.
Anon,
I can’t imagine how painful this is for and other ladies who have been through what you have been through. Every young lady the Lord allowed me to speak with who had an abortion was in unspeakable pain. I would encourage you to seek out a Crisis Pregnancy Center and a post abortion support group.
Francine Rivers has written a book about the pain of abortion. It is called The Atonement Child. Before you read it, you may want to have someone who knows you well and loves you read it and then give it the o.k. for you. Hopefully, they can guard your heart that way.
Praying for you and crying with you.
Hurting for you, Anon.
Anon,
When I know I am forgiven but can’t let go of the guilt and pain. I pray for God to hold me, love me, and comfort me.He does.I am so sorry you are hurting.I will be praying for you.
Anon, I’m so sorry for your pain. God does forgive you. ((hugs))
I read an article last week (can’t find the link right now) about a woman calling George Tiller a “Hero” and how he “saved her family from a life of pain and suffering” (she is married and has other children). Apparently she had a child with “severe deformities.” So that child could just be murdered? I was in tears, it was horrible.
Every woman I’ve known who has had an abortion has suffered with guilt, pain, etc.
I strongly second the book “The Atonement Child.” Excellent, excellent story.
Thank you, Kelly, for helping to get some of this information out there.
Off topic, really, but Francine Rivers has also written a fiction trilogy, The Mark of the Lion, which is VERY good reading.
It is set in the time just after Christ (the apostle John was still alive) in Rome, and really helps to “set the tone” the next time you read through books of the New Testament. It helps paint a picture of what life would have been like when the epistles were written.
The first book is called “A Voice in the Wind”. If you haven’t read them, check them out.
I definitely recommend reading “The Atonement Child” by Francine Rivers. It’s a wonderful book!
I read and comment here regularly, but lately have had my share of internet stalkers which is why I chose to be more anonymous this time. Mrs Kelly, I have entered my email address as the same email address I use when posting under my name, so you will know who I am.
When I was around 18-19, my pride and rebellion had me in a position where I was homeless. I ended up living in a shelter with several other troubled and homeless teens. Many of the young girls came to me for advice. When they would get pregnant (mostly through prostitution) I would counsel them to get the morning after pill. At the time, I honestly had NO clue what the morning after pill really did. If I did I would never have suggested it.
So then later, when I found somewhere to live and people started reaching out to me, I found out what that pill really did, and I was heartbroken. I felt personally responsible for the abortion of several possible babies. I could not get the guilt to go away. I honestly believed that, if I were to get pregnant, that God would take my child in the form of miscarriage or stillbirth as a punishment.
Quite by random selection I chose a book at the local “Christian” bookstore to read. It was called “The Atonement Child” by Francine Rivers. It’s a novel, and it’s about abortion. Although I wasn’t saved at the time, I read that book and begged God for forgiveness.
It was around this time that I started to believe that ALL kinds of birth control were wrong because it was anti-life. Instead of killing a baby already conceived, birth control was making sure that women didn’t conceive in the first place. BOTH of these attitudes are just as anti-life as the other.
I got saved in 2008, long after all of this, and I have two young children and one on the way.
Anyway I don’t know why I shared all of this except to say that if a woman has been hurt through abortion, “The Atonement Child” by Francine Rivers is an awesome book to read.
To the comments I deleted…
Several commenters were “amused” because they assumed we are suggesting “all women have horrible regret” after abortion, and were appalled that we were able to take a census of all women who had ever had an abortion (which has nothing to do with the post.)
First, I know well that some women don’t give it a second thought. This post was not an attempt to say that *all* women live with guilt and shame after an abortion. It was an attempt to combat the accusations that “we don’t care about women”…the point being, YES we do…and this is only one reason why we are pro-life.
BUT…it is not the main reason. Being pro-life is not contingent upon anyone’s experience. Certainly, truth needs to be told that abortion is usually not just a happy solution, and yes, most women have delayed emotional problems.
I hate to beat a dead horse….but, ultimately, we are pro-life simply because we believe that killing an innocent person is wrong. It doesn’t get any simpler than that. We don’t believe a woman has the right to kill her child just because it is inside her womb. We believe in human rights for every human. You, of all people, should admire that.
Anon,
I want you to know that you can find peace through this. I just posted a blog posting about it. You are welcome to email me privately at anytime.
Please everyone go read Shanas post.
THANK YOU SHANNA!!!!!
A friend of mine write this blog: http://www.extendedhope.com/ It’s about healing and wholeness after abortion. God bless you in your journey to freedom and wholeness.
Lucy,
You have no reason to thank me. It is God who gets all the glory.
I had a friend, from church, she was a new christian with 2 children, her daughter was just a few months older than mine. We hit it off good and hung out a lot. Just after she found out she was expecting their 3rd child, we somehow got on the topic of abortion. She told me that as an older teen and young 20’s, she had been an adament feminist and had 2 abortions – never thought a thing about them. But then she got married and WANTED a baby – and as she watched sonograms and read books about baby developement, she began to be haunted by the 2 babies she had aborted. Sometime after her son was born, someone from our church knocked on their door and they began coming to our church and got “saved”. She said she wished she could go back and undo the abortions, and live a better lifestyle – but no longer felt “haunted” by her past – just a deep regret. …. I’ve never forgotten the look on her face though.
This is interesting:
A 1994/95 survey[2,3] of nearly 10,000 abortion patients showed 18% of women having abortions are born-again or Evangelical Christians. Many of these women are likely anti-choice. The survey also showed that Catholic women have an abortion rate 29% higher than Protestant women. A Planned Parenthood handbook on abortion notes that nearly half of all abortions are for women who describe themselves as born-again Christian, Evangelical Christian, or Catholic.[4]
According to a 1987 article, Abortion Clinics’ Toughest Cases,[5] “Physicians and clinics frequently terminate pregnancies for women who believe abortion is ‘murder’ and ‘a sin’ but who are not anti-abortion activists. Demonstrators, organizers, and leaders in the [anti-abortion] movement are seen less frequently, ranging from perhaps once or twice a month to a few times in the course of a professional career.” The article contained the following anecdotes:
An administrator at a Missouri clinic recalled a woman blurting out in the recovery room, “It should be illegal.” The other women’s mouths fell open, said the administrator. “They couldn’t believe it.”
The medical director of an Indianapolis clinic recalled one prospective patient who phoned to ask whether the clinic had a back door. He said no. How, she asked, could she get inside without being seen by fellow picketers outside? Pointing out that two orthopedists practiced with him, the doctor told the woman “she could limp and say she was coming to see the orthopods.”
The medical director at a Dallas abortion clinic told this story: A white woman from an affluent north Dallas neighborhood brought her black maid in for an abortion and paid for it. While the maid was in a counseling session, a commotion was heard in the waiting room outside. The maid’s employer was handing out anti-abortion leaflets to other women waiting for abortions.
From a clinic director in a mid-western state: “One of the most remarkable cases was a woman who came [from another part of the state] and said she was the Right-to-Life president in her county. ‘But,’ she said, she ‘had become pregnant and had to have an abortion.'”
From a counselor in Virginia: “[The patient] was disturbed and upset and insisted she couldn’t carry the pregnancy to term. She opposed abortion — and in fact had picketed this very clinic — [but] felt the abortion was something she had to do.”
I had an abortion in 1998, and am now 29 years old. The after-effects of my “choice” have broken and destroyed my life in millions of twists and turns over the past 11 years. The memories of that day pop up out of nowhere, like a memory of a bad dream that I can’t believe was my life. I have depression, anxiety, self-hatred, guilt, shame, remorse, bitterness, and am a hypochondriac all because of this “simple choice” which women are allowed to make in our country. Abortions are not a “solution”. I always think of the saying, “One Killed, One Wounded” when I think of what happened to me. Getting the abortion was much too easy. Took a couple of hours. But now, the repercussions of those few hours are torturing me through my whole life, and have ruined a lot of things in my marriage for the man who wasn’t part of that whole scene. If I had just had that baby and let it be a blessing like God intended, my baby would be alive and I would not be wounded. I am so thankful that I have been forgiven for this transgression and that God will reunite me with my child in Heaven one day.
Sarah, I am so sorry for your grief. Our culture makes it so easy, even encourages, destructive practices! Thank you for sharing your story, especially for those who grieve in silence.