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“Alvin Toffler, the author of Future Shock called The Feminine Mystique the book that pulled the trigger on history. Indeed, once woman accepted this very basic premise of needing and trusting no other authority except her own, personal truth, she set her foot on a path that would take her, and ultimately the whole of society, in a direction diametrically opposed to the heart and the purposes and the ways of God.”

Yvonne Welch, a woman dear to my heart who has had a profound influence on my life, told me of a speaker I needed to hear who was featured on Nancy Leigh DeMoss. (Mrs. Welch has an interview on DeMoss’s show also, if you’d like to look it up.)

Once I started listening, I couldn’t stop. I gathered my oldest daughter to listen with me, and the only words I can think of to describe this historically accurate, intelligent and profoundly important discussion about the impact of feminism are…STANDING OVATION.

Put it on while you wash the dishes, or make it part of your school day. However you need to make time, I think this series is crucial–not only in helping us understand and hold on to truth in a wavering culture, but to help us give an accurate answer to those who question.

Each part is only around 9 minutes long….you’ll be glad you listened; well, most of you 😉

(BTW, she is a professor of women’s studies at a theological seminary, so she breaks the mold of the typical assertions made of women who embrace biblical gender roles….thought some would find that interesting.)

What we’re witnessing around us politically and culturally may not appear to be directly related to our roles as women. But it is my opinion that it has everything to do with it. I fully understand why the forerunners of socialism and communism said, “We must influence the women first”.

The family, at large, is falling apart–this we know.

But what you may not know is that there are actually groups of people claiming that what we perceive as a social crisis–that is the high divorce rate, children born out of wedlock, etc., is a “triumph” for the human rights movement.

Listen a little more closely…

“In the eyes of conservative forces, these changes mean that the family is in crisis,” he said. “In crisis? More than a crisis, we are in the presence of a weakening of the patriarchal structure, as a result of the disappearance of the economic base that sustains it and because of the rise of new values centered in the recognition of fundamental human rights.”

Basically, it’s just us kooky conservatives with our “narrow-minded view” that the ideal family is a mother, father and children, who think something is wrong. Silly us. We just need to be enlightened, I guess.

(By the way, the curriculum in our government school systems have already been moving toward this–removing all traces of references to “Mom and Dad” lest we offend, and adding positive reference to homosexual relationships.)

Dare I see the “f” word? Feminism–and all its cohorts are to blame for this warped way of thinking. It’s a natural progression. In the name of “rights”, we have elevated woman to a level of rebellion against any structure that threatens to “limit” her.

Now that she’s free to throw off the yoke of marriage on a whim, she’s too educated to stay home and invest in the future of her children, and we’ve finally broken the social stigmas that would require her to need a husband in order to start a family–why wouldn’t the family as we know it break down?

And what are they left to say except, “This is a good thing”? After all, this is what they created. To admit we have problems, is to admit they have failed.

So they’ll keep their heads buried in the sand and clap at each divorce–another “triumph”, while ignoring the blatant destruction all around us as a result of the collapsing family.

Christians, gird up your family and your children. They may be the only ones left standing.

Thank you, Daja, for sending me that link.

“Marriage has existed for the benefit of men; and has been a legally sanctioned method of control over women… We must work to destroy it. The end of the institution of marriage is a necessary condition for the liberation of women. Therefore it is important for us to encourage women to leave their husbands and not to live individually with men.” from “The Declaration of Feminism,” November 1971.

(By the way, for those who have asked why I must say I am “against feminism”, need I say more?)

When I first started this blog, I was keenly aware that the family was suffering, but I mostly thought it was an “accidental” result of a culture’s turning away from God. But over the last year, I have become more appalled at the outright admittance of the attack on the family.

I thought everyone generally believed family was a good thing, but knew there were problems from broken homes and divorce that must be resolved.

I was not fully aware that so many groups and organizations view the family as a cancer on society that needs to be aggressively destroyed.

And so when I talk about “slippery slopes”, and the danger of women flocking to the work force or closing their wombs, I want you to look beyond even those topics, and see the underlying intentions of destroying the family, understand my urgency to fight for the family, and then make the connections and see how successful their campaigns have been.

Those are dots worth connecting. It’s easy to get upset with people who make blanket statements like…”Women need to be home with their children.” But those statements aren’t just my opinion or my attempt at being intrusive on others’ lives. I see past the “issues” and am trying to get to the root of a much bigger problem.

Here are a few quotes to confirm what may seem like a radical claim:

“The care of children ..is infinitely better left to the best trained practitioners of both sexes who have chosen it as a vocation…[This] would further undermine family structure while contributing to the freedom of women.” –Kate Millet, Sexual Politics

“If even 10 percent of American women remain full-time homemakers, this will reinforce traditional views of what women ought to do and encourage other women to become full-time homemakers at least while their children are young…. This means that no matter how any individual feminist might feel about child care and housework, the movement as a whole [has] reasons to discourage full-time homemaking.” ~ Jane J. Mansbridge, Why We Lost the ERA, p. 100 (and you wonder WHY feminism ATTACKS home-making?)

“How will the family unit be destroyed? … the demand alone will throw the whole ideology of the family into question, so that women can begin establishing a community of work with each other and we can fight collectively. Women will feel freer to leave their husbands and become economically independent, either through a job or welfare.” — From Female Liberation by Roxanne Dunbar.

“The nuclear family must be destroyed, and people must find better ways of living together. … Whatever its ultimate meaning, the break-up of families now is an objectively revolutionary process. … “Families have supported oppression by separating people into small, isolated units, unable to join together to fight for common interests. … — Functions of the Family, Linda Gordon, WOMEN: A Journal of Liberation, Fall, 1969.

Being aware that there is even a fight at hand is the first step to being able to fight it.

Read more from noDNC.com–Feminism is Dedicated to the Destruction of Family