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On this Father’s Day, I honor my father, a man of great strength and wisdom, who has left us a godly legacy of firm conviction and principle, hard work ethic and generosity. I am so blessed to be his daughter.

Mom & Dad arriving to the tornando scene after being released from the hospital. Left is the neighbor's house, one of the few left standing, becoming "central command center". Right is their house.
Daddy, a strong, healthy, hard-working man in his early sixties had a massive heart attack the morning before we lost everything in a tornado that evening. The trauma of it all was overshadowed by the life-hurling events of the evening, but his near-death experience, with Mom and me beside him, was probably more traumatic, a moment cruelly burned in my memory.
Driving him to the hospital, watching him squirm with pain, then leaning forward, almost limp by the time we arrived, screaming at mom to drive faster…this couldn’t be happening.
He said goodbye, and I thought I would never see him again. So sudden, so unexpected, and the whole world seemed to spin out of control for a time as my brain tried to wrap around Mom’s crushing grief, how we would do things on the farm without him, how much we would miss his patriarchal wisdom that even my husband was accustomed to beseeching.
I simply crumbled onto the floor, my body refusing to hold up such astonishing grief.
And then finally, the reality that he was going to live. The sudden surge of relief, gratitude and overwhelming emotion.
More than likely, the day will come again and I will say goodbye. And my heart will break. But knowing this life isn’t the end and that I’ve been privileged to have him this long is a gift.
Taking our family for granted is so, so easy. As I reflect, writing this post, I will purpose to live and love more intentionally.
Join me today at Raising Homemakers!
“Raising daughters who wish to pursue the profession of homemaking poses a delicate dilemma in today’s culture because “homemaking” isn’t considered a profession.
Childcare is, if you are getting paid.
Teaching is, if you are getting paid.
Cleaning is, if you are getting paid.
Interior design is, if you are getting paid.
Accounting/finance is, if you are getting paid.
Culinary art is, if you are getting paid.
Counseling is, if you are getting paid.
Nutritional expert is, if you are getting paid.
The love of money….
But a woman who wants to become adept at all these professions tied into one is laughed off or pitied.”
Read the rest about The Homemaking Profession
Join me today at Raising Homemakers for Encouraging Your Sons to Desire to Marry a Homemaker!
It is hard to believe I’m writing to tell you that our home was hit by another storm yesterday afternoon. (For new readers, we lost our home to a tornado in 2011.) With no expectations of bad weather, my husband called, on his way home, to say that there were high winds in our area and he was having difficulty driving. He wanted to make sure none of the kids were outside playing, but there was no threat of tornadoes.
I double checked the weather, saw no tornado warnings, but as the wind is worse now since the last tornado destroyed all our trees, we usually feel safer in the basement during high winds. As we went downstairs, we saw our trampoline and other yard toys blow away out the back window.
We quickly made our way into the interior room and seconds later, it was almost like reliving the tornado over again, only this time, with the added terror of not knowing if my husband could make it home, believing, at one point, that I would never see him again. Our ears popped as before, and things started to crash from above. Of course the children were panicking, and I’m sorry to say I did as well. If a person can die of fear, I felt certain I would.
When I got the nerve to open the door to the room we were in, I saw that the back doors of our basement had been sucked off the hinges, just as before, and I could see a pile of debris in our backyard–what I assumed was most of our upstairs again.
Finally I heard Aaron come home, his unbelieving face to all of us, huddled on the floor, sobbing. When we went up, we found that we had lost the front porch and a good portion of the roof, and there was lots of water coming in, but we had a house!
Our church, friends and neighbors poured in and helped us get the roof covered and dry, and today, we begin the process of rebuilding. So thankful for the love, always there and kicked into overdrive, when we most need it. They comforted, hugged, prayed and distracted the children in the midst of the chaos. And brought food of course.
Please pray for us for wisdom and for emotional peace and calm as we walk through these next days.
I am so very grateful to the Lord for protecting us again, and my husband, and I believe He is always working things for our good. We are well-cared for and have no needs at this time except that you would cover us in prayer. Thank you so much!

I’ve written extensively here about the economic advantages of a woman who well-manages her home.
I’ve discussed the hidden costs of working outside the home, earning money from home, family economy, cutting the grocery budget, paying off debt, and a bit about our own personal journey of my leaving work to come home. One of my first ebooks, which now helps supplement our income, spawned from one of the darkest times in our lives.
For this post, I’d like to do more of an ‘inspiration overview’ of what it looks like when the home is the center of economic affairs, one of the characteristics of home that began this series, and how a woman, together with her family, can live life with home as the source, not the sacrifice of it all.
We’re One Family
Understanding the economic dynamics of a healthy family is crucial to even begin working toward the goal. First, members must all see themselves contributing to one “purse”. It’s not my money, his money, their money–though saving for personal goals has its place, but for the basic functioning of home life, we are a family and we all work together to that end.
Children’s Part
So all should work together to save and to earn, to use money wisely and to be resourceful. It is my opinion that children should be involved, not shielded from the monetary responsibilities of running a household. They should grow up with a good sense of what bills look like and understand the cost of living. The earlier they learn the “work for pay” model, the better prepared they will be for real life. (This, as opposed to simply getting an allowance.)
While children shouldn’t necessarily be required to contribute directly to the paying of bills, they should be required to be good stewards of utilities and the consumable comforts of home. A pattern of wastefulness may be countered with monetary consequences until he learns the value of resourcefulness.
Multiple Streams of Income
Kevin Swanson calls his family a “seven-income household”. In a typical, American home, the children are largely financial liabilities, with parents spending to provide them with many wants and desires outside of what is reasonable. Giving gifts is a good thing; going bankrupt to help your children keep up with the neighbors is not…not for a family and not for the child.
We encourage our children to find ways to make money to spend on items they want. But occasionally, they also offer to pay for their part if we eat out or chip in on something the family is saving for, etc. It’s only logical that we should be helping them develop healthy saving and spending habits. I think it’s safe to say that a poor practice of financial control by individuals has morphed into one of our nation’s biggest problems.
As children get older, it is reasonable that the family would benefit from everyone’s income–if everyone eats, uses electricity, enjoys vacations, etc., why shouldn’t everyone pitch in? It’s counter-culture, perhaps, but something families of the past understood made it all work.
Time = Money.
Frankly, the more time we have, the more money we can save and/or earn, which is an important aspect of having a manager at home. She can use all the powers of her mind and all the facets of her gifts and abilities to reuse, create, produce and multiply her resources. We may think of a woman coming home as “reducing to a one-income family”, but a woman who understands her potential can continue creative income-earning opportunities in addition to saving and stretching the money they make.
God Blesses Family Economics
I have lived through turbulent economic crises, we have been the scorn of those wondering why we would be so “irresponsible” to have children on such a tight budget, we have been to the desperate place of, “What are we going to do?” and I have seen God do the unthinkable and miraculous on our behalf. He is a faithful Father, and though hardship can and will come, I have never seen Him forsake the righteous.
When we give to Him what is His, He promises to take care of our needs and I think we need a grass-roots return to that fundamental truth in a way that causes us to live out our faith in shoe leather.
And beyond His provision, I believe He wants our homes to be beacons, even financially, providing enough even to always be ready and willing to extend our hands to the needy around us.
“Father, help us to resist the fear and temptation around us to forsake Your promises for what the world tries to offer. May we be good stewards, wise, resourceful, creative, and above all, acknowledging that it all belongs to You.”
Part 1: Hope For Society Lies in Finding the Real Meaning of Home
Part 2: The True Meaning of Home Lies in Our True Identity
Part 3: Home, The Center of Agriculture (Or Close)
Part 5: Home, The Center of Education
Thank you, Cindy @ Get Along Home, for bringing light to the glaringly obvious, sorely overlooked reality.
“…[my husband] heard a woman on the radio talking about growing up in a large family, and why she wasn’t having many (or maybe any) children herself. You see, her mother “worked her life away” and the interviewee didn’t want to have to live like that—always having to make meals, clean spills, and wash faces. My husband’s unspoken question, of course, was “Are you working your life away, Cindy? Are these kids doing that to you?”
Read the rest of I’m Working My Life Away (you’ll be so glad you did)
It’s far away, but I know from experience, that when tragedy strikes, we are all much closer than it seems.
My heart is heavy as I grieve the shooting in the elementary school in Connecticut. There are no words, I just cry and pray for these families to be sustained in the midst of chaos and tragedy so senseless and cruel.
And let us be reminded, were it not for God’s restraining grace, we could be capable of such evil too.
We stand with you, Connecticut.
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